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Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from millennium. Extramarital affairs can be fraught with evils, cause despair, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age difference, spiritual background, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the intention of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discteet married dating.

Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking extramarital affairs. I am conserned mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.

Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us flee the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the means?

Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your relatives or anyone else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to think about. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live together besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.

Avoidance, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the male is sexually neglecting his female for a multitude of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The first reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.